Our dream self is like the imaginary companion we may have had as children. Such a dream helper can represent the person we aspire to be, or might be an unacknowledged aspect of our own self. The following exercise shows how we can liberate this adventurous hero of the unconscious. Try conjuring up a dream self, sending him or her into the dream world to act as your ambassador and carry out missions on your behalf.
- Sit comfortably, close your eyes, and imagine that you are in front of a mirror. Allow the image of your reflection to build up as completely as possible, observing your face, hair and clothes just as you would in a real mirror.
- Dissolve the mirror, leaving your image as if real and three-dimensional. Tell yourself that this is your dream body, a part of yourself that can penetrate deep into the unconscious.
- Tell your dream body to travel tonight to the dream place you have chosen, to find the answer to a current problem, or to explore elusive areas of yourself – perhaps peace, happiness or self-confidence. Watch as your dream body willingly accepts your instructions, nodding and smiling.
- See the image of yourself become once more an image in a mirror, then watch both image and mirror fading until you are securely back in the real world. When you feel ready, open your eyes to set your dream self free.
Dream Cue: Create an idealized version of your waking self, with all the physical and psychological attributes you would like to have. Contemplating and identifying with this perfect self before sleep will help you to develop a more positive self-image.
Source: Teach Yourself to Dream: A Practical Guide by David Fontana, PhD, 1997, p. 37
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