Human Development

Friends and Dementia

Sometimes friends and neighbors find it hard to accept that a person has dementia when he looks fine. Many people do not know how to act around a person who is forgetful or whose behavior changes. You may want to explain that this is an organic disease that causes gradual deterioration of the brain. The person cannot help his behavior and he is not crazy or psychotic. Dementia is a disease condition and not the inevitable result of old age. Even if the person can talk quite reasonably and a casual observer cannot see any sign of mental deterioration, he may still not be remembering names or really following conversations. It is important to explain to friends that forgetfulness is not bad manners but something the person cannot avoid. It can be painful to tell old friends what is happening; some families have solved this problem by composing a Christmas letter, lovingly and honestly sharing this illness with distant friends.

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How do I make a big change?

  • Have a vision.

You can’t achieve something if you don’t know what it is! Maybe you want to start thinking more positively. The vision will give you something to focus on and writing it down will help you stay on track…Answer the call from within to connect to what’s true for you.


Vanzant, I. (2013). Iyanla, Fix My Life! Oprah Magazine, 14(9), 58.

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Homelessness has fallen. But will it stay low?

“Although unemployment is recovering, the number of people at risk of becoming homeless is staggering. In 2011 8.5 million households were spending over half their income on rent and earning less than half of their area’s median wage. Since then, rents have gone up. But incomes have not, and the poverty rate is unchanged. Poor households are one small financial crisis away from losing their homes.”

Tales from the streets, The Economist, Dec. 7, 2013, p. 33

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Forgive Yourself

“Finally, we offer forgiveness to ourselves. If we can truly give love to ourselves we will be able to then receive love from another. Can we acknowledge that we have faults, but that we are not just our faults? That we don’t always do things perfectly, but we do the best we can? Breathing in deeply, repeat, There are many ways that I have harmed myself through my thoughts, words and actions. There are countless ways that I have hurt and injured myself. I have betrayed, caused sadness and abandoned myself, consciously and unconsciously, due to my own anger, hurt and confusion. I acknowledge these now. I offer forgiveness to myself. May I be forgiven...Breathe in love and forgiveness into your heart and feel the healing power of giving this to yourself.” (p. 272)

Zhao, X. 2006. Ancient Healing for Modern Women. New York, N.Y.: Walker & Company.

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Helpful suggestions for all of us…

  1. So why is a car’s windshield so large and the rear view mirror so small? Because our past is not as important as our future. So, look ahead and move on.
  2. Friendship is like a book. It takes a few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.
  3. All things in life are temporary. If it’s going well, enjoy it, that won’t last long. If it’s going badly, don’t worry, that won’t last long either.
  4. Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace.

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